Monday, March 15, 2010

When kids say something that makes you sad

I love this little guy so much.

He is so smart.

He gives the best hugs.

He tells me several times a day that I am the "best cooker in the whole world."

He also tells me that he doesn't like having brown skin.

That he wishes that he had white skin.

We tell him that his brown skin looks like chocolate.

And everyone loves chocolate.

That lots of really great people have brown skin.

That people go out in the sun to make their skin brown like his.

He has taught me a valuable lesson.

That just because Corey and I don't care what color a person's skin is doesn't mean that they won't care.

I just wish I knew what to tell him to make him proud of who he is.

We love him just the way he is.

I just want him to feel the same.


Rayli said...

that is the sweetest thing I ever heard. I love the way you responded to him. I wish my skin was brown like his.

Jut and Char said...

I teach music in sharing time and he is such an amazing little man. He raises his hand to answer questions and is always so excited to get to help. He is one of my favorite little sunbeams.

God, My Savior Forever! said...

I think you are doing a great job at helping him see the beauty of his skin. You can also pray for him that the Lord speaks to his little heart. God is in all the details and has a way with children:D I pray that like you said...he learns to accept and love whom the Lord has created in him. Tell him he's one of a kind!!! He is unique:D

Lacy said...

I just found your blog today and have spent way to much time reading it. LOL! We also have an adopted child who has "brown skin". She says the same things as your little guy. She hates having brown skin and wants to have "light tan" skin like the rest of us. I have cried many tears for her and prayed many prayers as well. I think it sounds like you are doing a wonderful job with helping him feel comfortable in his own skin. It is so hard. We tell Katie brown is beautiful all of the time. I also point out other families (when we see them) who have families of diffrent backgrounds. I also tell her she tastes like chocolate and lick her face and tiny toes a lot. I can't help myself. LOL! I tell her daily how special, beautiful, smart, funny and talented she is. I could be setting myself up for major diva issues in the future:) But, She is so preciouse to me and knowing that she feels bad about herself because of the color of her skin breaks my heart.

This is not something I expected when we adopted her. I thought I would love all of the hurt, racism, and pain away. I guess it doesn't work like that. My princess starts school this year and I pray it goes well.

I wish you luck.